“In my 50s, for the first time, I can look at a woman and say ‘she’s really hot.'”

BLAKE SMITH, a veteran of counseling and men’s retreats. Photo by Monica Almeida/NY Times

Sometimes you read stories and think, “Really?” This was certainly one of them for me.

It’s about men who are “ex-gay.”

I guess it’s kind of hard for me to understand because I like men, always have and can’t picture myself being ‘counseled’ into liking another gender. Then again, there are a lot of people that believe gender and sexual attraction are fluid so perhaps it can work in reverse–only permanently. Or not. Who knows?

In the article by Erik Eckholm, the ex-gay men argue “reparative therapy” worked for them. Read on …

‘Ex-Gay’ Men Fight Back Against View That Homosexuality Can’t Be Changed

By Erik Eckholm

LOS ANGELES — For most of his life, Blake Smith said, “every inch of my body craved male sexual contact.”

Mr. Smith, 58, who says he believes homosexual behavior is wrong on religious grounds, tried to tough it out. He spent 17 years in a doomed marriage while battling his urges all day, he said, and dreaming about them all night.

But in recent years, as he probed his childhood in counseling and at men’s weekend retreats with names like People Can Change and Journey Into Manhood, “my homosexual feelings have nearly vanished,” Mr. Smith said in an interview at the house in Bakersfield, Calif., he shares with his second wife, who married him eight years ago knowing his history. “In my 50s, for the first time, I can look at a woman and say ‘she’s really hot.’ 

Read the rest here

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5 thoughts on ““In my 50s, for the first time, I can look at a woman and say ‘she’s really hot.'”

      1. As a survivor of a cult that tried to convert LGBT people, I can assure you that self-haters are brilliant at fooling themselves. My book ERASING REASON: INSIDE AESTHETIC REALISM – A CULT THAT TRIED TO TURN QUEER PEOPLE STRAIGHT provides ample evidence that conversion claims are bogus.

  1. I bet! If they’re adults, though, they’re only setting themselves up for a letdown. Where I think this is really sad is parents who may be forcing their children to go to this type of therapy. 😦

  2. Jeff

    If they actually showed Blake’s second wife, no one would believe his argument that he’s now attracted to women. Growing up as his son I can say his being gay wasn’t his biggest problem. They guy views other people as things to be used

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